Years ago I continued the roadmap for life in my young age as given to by my family and social circumstances. I carried on and finished those I took as priorities before expected time. Every single thing was going well according though I was not happy, not satisfied.
The circumstances have given some reasons to act on purposes in life, are related to others, not me and I continue being in hard work without loving it.
One type of circumstance is, as our parents want us to follow their dreams,career shaping like that. Another circumstance is, being brilliant in every section of society you are subjected to jealousy, enmity and struggles in regular journey. People and social adversity differently give an outlook for choosing a purpose of life. In both cases given situations could be of forced purpose on our lives. Later it can be burdened on our future satisfaction regarding self purpose.
Morning 9-5 jobs drain us. After reaching home we get no time for thinking of dissatisfactions . We have to pay our bills, loans. We keep our dreams behind a daily dairy’s page and wake up next morning without any excitement.
They are lucky who do not think much about disappointments. Until they dig into them, will never feel like some of us do. After having a well planned life, trapped in disappointments. Those bites every time, don’t let us be happy. Always it makes us upset, tense and lifeless. Often we ask, is that all? Working for others, I got only hours to think about family and their dreams?
If I ask, many would say, they never dream other than a big house, lots of money and children. Few come up with -‘ I want to do something but don’t know what, how? When I do not want to be as I am now, do not know what I can do to make me happy? Making myself love that. ‘
If the second category person you are, then yet to meet purpose of life. After years when priorities have been fulfilled, I looked at myself and saw I never planned anything for me at all.I felt lost. What I was doing, where I was, didn’t want to be there anymore. But didn’t know what to do?
One day I found I’m good at sharing and solving my friend’s personal problems. I am writing from my teenage, I began it again and started feeling satisfied. Start to keep in writing how I solved their problems.
After having all, house,children,money when you are feeling unhappy, I must say dig deeper inside you. If you don’t have professional experience or school college certificates are not beneficial for what you want to do after decades, you are watching yourself at zero ground. Not equipped by skills, confidence, and sources. Still want to do what makes you alive. You want to go ahead when you are not paid. You want to be your own organization. You know beyond formal education life has taught you various areas, you want to warn others not to be trapped in. You want to go ahead anyways. You are finding your purpose.
Ask straight question to yourself :
- Are you alive doing what you are doing now?
- Do others care about your dissatisfied life?
- Where do you want to be after ten years?
- Is that life? You lived unhappy, inside your heart?
- At the end of the day are you feeling excited to get up early next morning?
Now see the answers. You are thinking, clueless about how to pursue. Good, that you have started noticing. Doing something for your own dream and taking part in family’s activity, I believe, is not the same thing.You will be under pressure,stress always.Someone would ask explanation of your work, honesty however you put hundred percent, someone would see less in you, because it is part of their dreams.
Find out those things you are good in:
So far you have done things for family, society, boss. Common thread in between them, that is all about them. You got nothing memorable or remarkable. Still you are doing, because having no sources or direction, you are living this way. Now look at you this way:
- How much time you’ve for yourself?
- What you like to do in that time
- How and why you are almost in every social platform
- What you wanted to be and why you stopped
- How to dream rightfully
- How to be connected within soul
As soon you look at self this way, you are going to be
- Curiosity will bring you reason, why you are curious ,I call it intention
- Reason will inspire you to gather information about yourself
- You now paying attention to utilize your curiosity into activities
- Your activities will turn you towards finding direction
so, you are almost noticing, you are individual. Working for others is cool, but finding how to use time working for something you love to do is also cool. I’ve experienced obligation, criticism and holding back at this stage by my own people, surroundings. That’s sometimes sad but I move on. I didn’t want to be there, where I don’t feel alive. Everyday is lifeless.I decided I would go on. My first offer for publishing a book comes from America. For six months they continued to call me and waited for my answer. I had no resources for going ahead. No idea what it could cost. No one was helping, because it was supposed to be part of my own dream. I learned no one wants your dream to be fulfilled when you are always ready to fulfill their dreams. Stupid I was knowing not that publication house wanted to publish my book as published author. Anyways, that offer I could not take but one thing comes clear to me, I can achieve my dream and I am on the right side.
So I changed few things immediately :
- Keep my time for my own
- Good habit starts with creativity
- I start with what I had
- Stopped my phone, and availability to others, to whom I am secret inspiration and never expressed or appreciate me for that
- I start to look for motivational areas.
- Continue to keep my positive atmosphere
When you know what you want to do beyond 5-9 loving the job :
Main task starts now. The task about walking on the path you understand. Finding purpose means the excitement to do what you love to do and never going to feel dissatisfied.
You require for actions :
We are having specific unique qualities in us. Some we take long years, some know early at the age about it.Doesn’t matter when you’ve realized. Main thing is,you have found it. That’s the bliss. Such blessings not to waste.Look at the universe to show up your gratitude. Be grateful for finding a way you love to live.
Honesty is the second thing you must admit absolutely to understand mistakes, corrections and moving on.
Observation is must without being judgemental. Look at your surrounding impact of your dream job about to do.Before officially you are on, start between near people and observe feedback. People will never appreciate you about being beneficial of your work, but when they visit you often for more, be sure you are on right side
Learn to withdraw. Wasting time means wasting life. Good habits would bring you back.Find out some quiet time in day to practice mindfulness. Reading and walking. Stop wasting time by watching social media posts and making phone calls or making others lives.Skilled up yourself. Whatever it is.Be learner.Everyday new one thing.
And listen to the sound in the air which has a message visionary , even in a crowd listen to what is inspirational .
What not to do:
- Trying to get attention from famous people
- Self negativity
Dear readers, I can go on, on and on. But it’s time to full stop for today. English is not my first language, people laughed at me, still I managed writing in English. I prefer to write simple words, small sentences which we speak regularly. I didn’t get income,yet I go on, because I am alive to do so. I believe the universe has some plans for people who are trying to find a purpose in life. For those people, suddenly wake up into the zero ground and ask ‘is that all about me? ” The moment you asked,are knocked by the universe. You are going to be unstoppable, unless finding the purpose waiting to be found.
Today I see, my dreams are increasing. So far I’ve done with l dreams successfully. Only except me. I am still working. I’ve found my purpose,and it’s revealing new doors every day. Intuition is the major connectivity between the universe and me.I know many more to come on the way. And I’m in love with my work.
Never be worried to be lost. You will find a new version of life in the lost place. Now move on, looking at nothing ,who is with you, how much resources you got, how much you are paid or not. Road will open gradually. The universe is watching your dedication, honesty and love for life.However hard time it is, turn it into favor and believe ‘I can”. Above all, commit to self for achieving dreams.
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See you in my next article. Until then, take care of yourself.