It is not important what we have achieved at the end of life but how we have achieved it. Rather what we become while achieving it. And how we faced the process. If the journey we undertook was with fear, anger, negativity or resentment, then the end result, even if we become successful, would not be worth. For the residual feeling would be of frustration. When we reach the destination and when we look back on the journey, we should feel nice about ourselves and, secondly, about the thing we have achieved. Many times we feel ‘I should have done this differently’. May be we regret our bad or schematic behaviour. May be we regret our lack of action. And we do not get another chance to better our deeds. In such a case, it becomes more important to try to do it right the first time only.
At the beginning of any new venture we are usually very optimistic. But if we do not couple this optimism with action, then we would never get the desired result. So it is very important to have the right kind of attitude before, during and at the end of the endeavour. Before we begin any venture, we should be full of energy, optimistic and organized. The plus point would be if we have the support system intact. This is very ideal. But suppose, either of the above mentioned things is not available, then the only thing left to do is fill in wherever and with whatever is required. For example, if we do not have a support system, we should be methodical and anticipate the possible requirements while undertaking the task. We need to depend upon ourselves in this case.
Nowadays many people travel solo. One of my friends, after a series of heartbreaks, decided to go solo. There is peace in solitude is what she heard. She had a travel destination in mind and she was also sure of the duration (she had a fortnight of leaves at her disposal). She had the necessary access to the internet and was accustomed to use technology too. So she made the logistics arrangement, the travel bookings and the places she would like to visit. Everything was ready. The blueprint seemed foolproof and exhausted. This was theory. But what happened in practice was altogether different. She had made the reservations and the travel plans. But she had not taken efforts to confirm the reservation nor had she checked the timing of her flight on the day of the travel she had not checked the local news of the city she had planned to travel. She had not seen the weather report of the place also.
The result was not as was expected. She learnt her lesson though.
Had she exercised a few more things, her journey would have been memorable. We all learn from our experiences. Now before venturing on a new journey she has her ‘To do list’ ready. Her optimism at the start of the journey remains intact till the end. It spills over to the other journeys too. This has happened because she her actions and thoughts have gone hand in hand.
On the other hand, there was this person staying in the same apartments as my aunt, who was so methodical and so organized that my aunt used to say that ‘he remembers everything and forgets living’. He seldom had a smile on his face. His mind used to tick all the things he had in his list all the time. In the process, he always forgot to experience those things. Whether this condition was due to his insecurity or whether it was out of necessity, is difficult to state. But one would never want to travel with such a person. As a result, he was, majority of the times, lonely.
Are we like the girl who forgot to consider all things or like the man who thought too much of all the things? Why be in extremes? Why not choose the ‘Middle Path’ of the Buddha? Share your experiences with us about the times when you chose the Middle Path!!!